Jennifer, the situation you describe would be very frustrating for me. I don't know if I could handle it with as much grace as you do. Jason and I are friends with people from a broad range of socio-economic categories. It doesn't always bother me, which makes me think it's not about the wealth (or poverty), it's about how people carry themselves, interact with others and generally respond to what they have (or don't have). Our town is a bit odd, too. Here, a PhD from a top school carries more weight and prestige than owning a mansion.

Trina, I'm really glad you shared with us how you live your life, in response to the "haves." As you pointed out, that's the most important thing we can do—decide how we want to respond, and in essence "walk the talk." It sounds like the message is getting through to your kids, too, which is the other important part of the equation—sending kids into adulthood with wisdom, compassion and good decision-making skills. Maybe they can help shift the narrative around wealth and poverty.