Kristin, 

I was moved by your insightful post.

I would've enjoyed more time with You, Jason and Carmen's other friends, but everything seemed to happen so fast. I believe there were many people who felt  disconnected in one way or another to this event. Her family, for the most part, hadn't met me either, and I'm sure they to were a little concerned? Most of my friends had that same feeling. In fact, my friend Sharon asked me to tell her what it was that I didn't like about Carmen. She felt, for the purpose of legitimacy, there must be a few things. I struggled with that, but It did help put this into perspective. I always thought those that said "you just know when it is right" were mostly full of it and to some extent I still do, but in this case??? Carm and I have known each other for over 27 years and the things that matter two us both haven't changed, even if 1632 miles separated us for 20 of those years. What you had never seen before in her is how I've always known her. That is what brings us together. There are differences sure (A Montana Boy in the Big Apple), but those to bring us together

Weddings leave little time for the individual. I felt swallowed up by the whole, looking down at myself being tossed about. Never in one place long enough to make any real connection. My own friends were saying "goodbye" before I said "hello" or shared a laugh. Some of them I hadn't touched in years. I guess it's the nature of this beast.

I did, however, feel Loves warm embrace, a deeper union of two hearts, two people's friends and families coming together for the first time. It was a wonderful feeling that brought a tear to my eye. What a diverse and eclectic group of folks!

Overall, a good time was had by all. We sure did appreciate the participation and love of everyone involved and look to the future with wide eyes and wonder at a life that we will make together. 

I don't feel you and I really had a chance to get to know each other this time but I look forward to the next. We will talk like friends about this crazy wedding we were at...

State Fairs ROCK!!!

Warmly (to quote my wife),

Kevin Kragt