I have been mullingover  this post and while I feel compelled to respond, I'm not sure how. This post has many layers, some referring to a deterioration of societal standards as well and "church" standards. I feel the same compulsion to distance myself from the squeaky wheel Christians who give the rest of us a bad name. Those hate propogaters make me look bad; I am pursuing an authentic life and an authentic faith, but they continually embarrass me and call my faith into question, where I have no involvement in that kind of crap. 

There is a deeper, much more personal level referring to your divorce and subsequent marriage. The two are inextricably linked because traditional churches have very clear ideas about divorce...but you are a living breathing person who had to "finesse" the church system, if you will.  I would love to hear more about this quiet voice that tells you not to care what others think. I feel that I am moving into the place in my life where my skin really feels like my own; and I don't have to keep up with the other mommies, or fit into to their definitions of success are, or even have a "normal" job. But, my point is, I find it interesting that you made a connection between fewer self -identified Christians and your personal struggle. I was sort of surprised at the end, thinking the post was going somewhere else. 

I have written too much, but please don't hear that as a criticism. Far from it; just wanted more deets! 

You are the best.