jenx67, I would love to read your divorce essays. Those are great titles! It is an interesting question: What will we want our kids to know about our divorce (in terms of details), and when are they ready for that?  Re: the reader comment, I assume you're referencing the "if Christ is at the center of your marriage" one? As if any couple is able to truly have Christ is at the center of their marriage! Because we can't achieve that perfection, I guess he's essentially confirming that everyone is susceptible to divorce?

Ashley, thanks! Being able to write about my divorce is the most therapeutic thing I can do. I wasn't ready to write about my divorce until some time had passed, though—a good three or four years. Writing usually helps me work through things, but in this case I'm glad I had to get some distance and perspective on it before I was able to write.

Marie, thanks to you, too, and welcome! Even though the book has an entirely secular bent, my essay actually addresses how I felt simultaneously trapped in my marriage and in my understanding of God. The freeing process did not simply involve cutting ties and walking away from the institutions that confined me, as I thought it would. It involved embracing God and marriage again, in different forms and new ways. So I completely agree with your statement: "Approaching something as painful and devastating as divorce with a spirit of hope and faith is, in my opinion, exactly what it means to be Christ."