dee, this is so powerful: "Tolerance, acceptance, etc.: these things are not the same as nor do they wield the same life-inspiring power as another’s celebration of one’s entire being." And this, too: "I realized that, in coming to find a wholeness and delight in my sexuality, I could no longer mistreat that created being nor the others that would be my partners." Thank you so much for sharing your story and perspective (and no, you didn't cross any lines—I love it!). :)

jenx67, you've hit on the most important thing of all—not understanding God's rules, but understanding God's love for each of us. That really is what transformed me—when I stopped trying to figure out who God wanted me to be, and realized how much God loves me, exactly as he created me. That doesn't mean I don't have learning and work to do, but it's work to uncover who I was created to be, not to become some cookie cutter Christian.

Jennifer, I almost wish I hadn't seen those Hollister t-shirts. These kinds of things get me so worked up. (But thanks for keeping me informed! For real!)

Debbie, I completely agree with the importance of giving our kids as much information as possible. It seems like you're being very realistic with your approach, right down to this: "I want them to know they can always come to me. I may not be happy with the situation. I may be angry, but I will always love them."