Amazing how expereinces can be so universal, the circumstances can change but those feelings and observations you descrbed of the 'after' ring so true. I am thinking about how you were reflecting on happiness before the vacation, and how ones mindset over an incident like Q's can either be allowed to 'overshadow and flavour' the whole holiday or used to contrast with, and highlight the good times. Not trying to diminish the impact on Q and all of you, just saying that looking back I suspect you all will see the happy over the trauma.
Wishing Q well for healing and much happiness.