suzi w., oh, that's really hard! I'm so sorry, and hope you are surprised by something new and wonderful soon.

Meredith, that's a really interesting take on this issue, and a difficult thing to see happening in your life. The distance is growing, yet you feel like there's nothing you can do to stop it. You make a great point, too, about the different ways we interact with different friends, and how the variety is important. I still think, though, that all the variety is fun and interesting, sort of like traveling to lots of different places, but it's also exhausting. In contrast, those one or two really close friends always feel like being back *home.* 

The Sandwich Life, I think it's extra difficult when you've had a wonderful friendship and then lost it, because you're forever comparing all the other friends and relationships to that ideal. I went through a similar loss almost two years ago, and I'm still trying to come to terms with it.