3 Easy Steps To Help You Ignore the Experts:
Step 1:
Write, first and foremost, for yourself. There is nothing more useful in the world to me than getting my thoughts down on (virtual) paper so I can see them, move them around, consider them in a new light. I'm a better person for my writing...more confident about who I am and, thus, more able to disregard those who thrive by telling people they don't measure up.

Step 2:
Recognize that all the lists in the world will not fix the problems in your life. Focus, instead, on being honest with yourself, on expressing the parts of you that may prefer to stay hidden beneath the surface but, in fact, serve you best when they're out in the open. All of which leads to the final step in this process...

Step 3:
Use your newfound honesty and self-reflection to connect, authentically, with others. Recognize (ala @ccseed) the power of each and every story (yes, that includes yours) to help others frame their own.

ps...if you apply these 3 easy steps consistently and it doesn't seem to help, write blog posts with lots of curse words.

(Thanks for the shout-out KT. You're as useful as they come.)