Rachelle, that geographic aspect makes a real difference, doesn't it? I can think of several friends that would fit into that tier-1 category if they were more geographically available. The added complexity of living overseas would be really difficult for me to handle, when it comes to issues of community and loneliness. Sending hugs your way.

Nicola, yes, once again the issue of geography and transience is at play. But making a real effort makes a difference. I love how you put this: "I may be slowly turning into a friend gatherer…someone who pulls people in and mixes different groups." Beautiful.

The Modern Gal, a really solid boyfriend/husband/partner relationship can make a huge difference. I can attest to that! But I also agree, there's still something about a female Category 1 friend who lives close by. I'm beginning to think it's something we'll never outgrow.