When Mr. Ex apologized for his bad behavior and cheating it was all I wanted to hear and made moving along so much easier.  He meant it and it healed my heart somewhat.  The other party to the affair - I asked for an apology from her and she refused and still hasn't done it.  I realized a few years ago that it wasn't my job to "force" an apology and frankly I didn't need or want it.  She is living her own creation of a life based upon destroying mine and I need to pray for her and pray for my own grace and ability to forgive.