oh-so-wise adult perspective teenagers special behaving funny whisper laugh walk you're snowballs control scenarios adult lives tinge similar silliness friends joke situation junior high socially greater insult beginning junior high sadly human adults we're simply practiced keeping things check we're adept talking paralyzing paranoia hysteria learn things roll things grain salt earth impulses worry read things snowball effect turning protecting oneself perceived real pain realizing completely shed feelings fears realizing twenties capable zits curses magically disappear hope acne things life inevitably hurt feelings hope find resolution adults capacity reconcile real ways pick continue forgiveness love holding kernels hurt suspicion inside fact happen jason practice ex-wife partner yesterday important background close friends jason share broader community friends post tells story yesterday talk messy misunderstanding began months hurt chose withdraw confront creating distance turn made withdraw questioning problem larger issue snowball effect powerful recognized middle guess bible anger ephesians anger hurt festering growing cancer evidence lives found ways function co-parents difficult months finally couple weeks felt compelled root thorny weed began processing happened conversations learned relationship ultimately stronger we're human importantly we're teenagers adult advantages challenges parents -year-old starts seventh grade week seventh grade sigh newly reinforced relationship parents encourage sustain realize find ways instill life lessons tricky social situations 