Okay, I'm back bc it's like an itch I simply cannot ignore. I really appreciate the comments from Jenx67. She is right; I cannot know the feelings that you carry with you as you move past a divorce. I hope I did not imply that. 

I simply wanted to say a failed marriage does not a failed person make. And really? Can there be a better term than "failed marriage?" Ick. I sure would not like that applied to me. 

Having read this post and the helpful comments I feel like I have some insight on how to listen to my sister and to be sensitive to people in this boat. Thanks Kristin and thanks to your wonderful readers.