Whether or not on the surface our lives look messy, to each one of us, I think at some time we feel that way. Hence, your statement: "The difficult messes we face ultimately save us, in the end. They save us from being oppressed and silent. They save us from being mediocre and false. They save us from staying where we are simply out of fear, or lack of inspiration."  is a truth we can all share in. Nice thoughts.