Jessica: I bet a lot of people stay in marriages too long (or for good) because of a fear of loneliness. It's ironic, isn't it? I also think it's OK to admit that we're people-people, and we need that kind of connection. I used to think that need was a weakness; now I understand it's just the way some of us are wired. We just have to be more careful to not fall into relationships with the wrong people for the wrong reason. (Glad you relate so much to my blog, and are willing to be a part of the conversation. I really enjoy your blog, too.)

Steve: Thanks for sharing your story. What's interesting is that you had been alone a lot, on that trip, but suddenly something made the experience tip from a content aloneness to a lonely one. That's what I'm trying to get to the heart of: what causes those tipping points?

Paul: I think your observation about fast-food restaurants is a good illustration of what I was trying to get at. People get fast food when they just need to eat something and don't have time for anything more complex, not when they want to take their time and have a meaningful conversation. I don't think I would feel that sense of loneliness at a fast food place because I wouldn't connect the experience to conversation and sharing. Too bad I never feel like eating fast food! :)