Wendy, I'm sorry we'll miss each other in Portland! Are you moving to Michigan? If so, perhaps we can meet up for coffee some time down the road in that great state. Blessings on your move!

TJ, you're right—we can try really hard to overcome our selfish nature, but what else can we do? It's not like we can take some fancy medication or have a procedure done! That's what's so difficult, too, about many of these situations we simply *haven't* experienced. If I've never had cancer, the only thing I can do is ask questions and listen and try to understand as much as I can.

mksteele, you nailed this: "it is only from acknowledging the truth of our humanity (that we are self-centered) that we can EVER hope to begin to deal with the problems that our humanity creates." You're also right about how important it is to put ourselves in others' shoes. Sometimes it feels next to impossible, though, doesn't it? I think married parents can begin to imagine what it's like to be a single parent, but certain things, like being diagnosed with cancer, are so difficult to imagine. Thanks for your thoughtful comment, and for sharing how this whole topic connects to your belief in God.

jenx67, I don't know if it's courage, or if it's just finally full acceptance of this: "My life hasn't turned out at all like I thought it would, and I think I can honestly say I'm grateful." That realization and acceptance translates to something very powerful.

Daisy, isn't that an amazing moment, when you realize you've conquered something that others desperately fear? It's very freeing.

(Sorry all—I'm super tired and will finish responding in the morning! Good night!)