For the purposes of discussion/understanding, looking back there was very little in the way of thinking about amicable divorce - or so it seemed. I hadnt a reason to bring it up before, this time your topic turned to talk of others divorce, so it felt appropriate. Thank you for acknowledging the goodness aspect, something I have been honing as I have journeyed through adult life - working on overcoming the negative, and ugly aspects of many parts of life. Still working on that as the path lays out ahead of me. :-) I am grateful there's always room for improvement and a path ahead on which to practice self improvement. Of course there's much we dont know about each other yet, looking forward to experiencing the unfolding of knowledge over time.
[as an aside: I had a tough time adding this here, I deleted it, thought about connecting with you privately, deleted that, and came back here... I can have angst over issues too :-) Anyhow, I decided to leave it here, since you have developed a caring community here, and really decided I had very little to loose, possible much to gain in sharing]