Gen, I love hearing about things from other perspectives, too. Even if someone else's situation doesn't line up with mine, their viewpoint can broaden mine in unexpected ways.

Kris, sadly, you're probably right. I wonder, though, if some of our connection to our kids emerges from the very situation we're in—not being able to be with our kids every day, and therefore responding to how much we've missed them. We also get breaks, so we have more energy for the kids when they're here. Of course, many other factors are involved, too. It's complicated (like most things).

Trina, thank you! I'm amazed, again and again, to find myself here. We've come so far.

Jen, WHEW! I know this has been a struggle for you and the whole family. So many different emotions get tangled up. Thanks for sharing the link with your sister, and for sharing her thoughts with us. In the months and years following my divorce, I've often had that "sounds wrong, but, feels right" sense of things. Tell her to trust her feelings and instincts more than the clamor of the world.

Cheryl, I was going to mention in the post that much of this development in our relationship with our girls has come with them getting older. It's a whole new world once they all have their own email addresses! And now our two oldest girls are texting us, as well. Anyway, I'm so glad you're already getting glimpses of these silver linings in your own relationship with your kids. That's a very good sign. :)

Joi (Mom), it's "beauty from the ashes," indeed! There's no way I could have imagined this life and these blessings, a mere five years ago.

Tara, I'm so glad the timing of this really spoke to you! Yes, guilt is a monster that can take over if you let it, even in situations we can't ultimately change. Focusing on the good things, as you pointed out, is the only way to overcome the not-so-good. Thanks for reading and commenting!