photo genealogy photos nuclear family people names parents daughters dad's jason daughter share joke combine names hyphenated five-syllable conglomeration easily worse syllables family share common logistical pain social hurdle saturday instance farmers market decided participate community project ready leave woman organizing project sign family record worked pieces wrote sign-in sheet felt urge footnotes detailing relationships wife daughter step-daughter diagram clarify huge deal feel explain people legitimize real connection people legally connected old-fashioned names explain generally feel old-fashioned divorce married questioned importance legal document sort changed mind story marriage names long questioned decision husband's symbolically important time marriage ended struggled idea daughters decided reclaim maiden case change symbolized reclaiming individual identity started life legally change order bind heart soul incidentally heck work legally revert maiden jason decided married final thought pretty taking making decisions meaning ultimately matters brings meaning rich symbolism life symbols strong purpose supposed what's expected embracing matters shedding empty tradition advocating name-keeping advocate figuring matters younger craved labels names serve purpose helping sort things give user-friendly interface accessing wanted people glance public face life make guess pretty easier cleaner made feel succeeded important embrace complexity roll times people confused family number reasons sort confusion good forces people what's normal thing makes confident standing decisions made life they're decisions make life result makes open choose fall back ways wanting nice neat crystal-clear knee-jerk habits feeling apologetic life simply nice neat long long assure 