You know there is really nothing like having a kid with Asperger's Syndrome to teach you just how handy a skill it is to be able to fudge the truth a bit. The little white lie is sometimes just what is required.

I don't have all the answers, far from it. I think one mistake we make as parents is to equate lying with having a bad character. I don't know if I'm expressing that right - it seems like an emphasis is placed on not being a LIAR rather than making good choices.

We put a lot of time into explaining to our AS child how we came to make different decisions on what to reveal, what to keep to ourselves. It's been illuminating.