wonderful people twitter blog people crossed invisible boundary place feels true friendship face face meredith friends share common genx meredith geny live small city midwest lives city england divorce spouse mother experienced divorce child connected variety issues interactions large part result meredith's honesty openness willingness deeper deeply moved words share part love list project meredith make check blog ordinary meredith kristin asked write guest post suggested agreed write life good important recognize deliberately hold good things love list conscious good things life tendency focus negative positive year made decisions steps brought positive place life great happy content participating love list project felt natural honor happiness life focus good weeks grandmother passed unexpectedly midst family chaos sadness found difficult concentrate positive love list back seat grief wondered mattered anymore answer matter life moves grieve good things happened deliberately holding good things life important grandmother passed entire family coincidence divine providence previously-planned vacation time middle loved love list playing board card games family we're crowded table equal sense camaraderie competitiveness grief won't vanish overnight knowing loved surrounded people loved helped intertwine sadness continuing love list initially started list thinking ahead simply creating catalog things loved adding organically time surprise love list ended providing comfort giving honor grandmother weeks things positive list tangible reminder quote red-haired girl tomorrow make sorrow disappear magically tribute grandma's life living life fullest life granted celebrates wonderfully good things blessed words written sheet paper love list words paper visible symbol things people life worth holding good times love love list symbolize surprising part journey 