sense possibility suspense that entered life along with facebook account times almost unbearable just signed caved facebook less than month each since then find myself marveling breadth information have access sometimes sinking feeling that comes with there many people from past until recently were just vague question marks ellipses memory some didn't even surface memory suddenly dozens people once knew have emerged ellipses full sentences even paragraphs they have photos histories spouses ex-spouses children pets dozens their connections with other people know they vacations have favorite music political views side projects it's fascinating emotionally draining perhaps it's emotional twenty-something facebook guess that most their contacts people they've never fully lost touch with large part because email cell phones have always been their service they haven't even enough time make then lose contact with scores friends most them also haven't lived enough life cultivate sufficient drama which they then have explain those people they've lost contact with happens between ages other hand have lost many friends over years they tend fall into four categories friends from high school didn't stay touch with because didn't reason friends from college early marriage years time louis gradually lost touch with busyness life moving around having babies friends lost contact with when moved illinois mostly because simply depressed want share updates with anyone eventually focused starting over putting energy into friendships friends because they were somehow hurt pissed just plain judgmental about divorce generally lack information lack empathy most part honeymoon weeks facebook have been full sweetness generosity bliss have reconnected with whole slew people including friend from high school haven't been contact with since category college roommates fall into category whom learn also gone through divorce several really wonderful category people close when lived grand rapids even though none these friends ditched painful during divorce years there still sense trepidation worrying wondering what have they heard about whole saga forced choose sides whose side would they what will they think about reconstructed life being touch with these people through facebook provided quiet place acceptance picking pieces friendships ways result almost experiences this online social network been feeling lightness facebook sprinkled salt some wounds week before trip york photo friend people know section knew been very close many years falls into category couldn't view profile course able that lives york spirit reconnecting beginning-again i've been doing facebook felt compelled touch know going york maybe could meet lunch coffee sort complexities what happened then what happened since sent message then spent next week checking repeatedly response nothing have seen evidence that she's been active facebook during this time it's hard imagine explanation silence other than this simply does want hear what might have does want formulate thoughts share them with it's situations like these that make think much more simple pre-facebook social life part tempted back same time don't believe that ignorance bliss that what don't know won't hurt facebook offers medium getting everything table that grateful 