kristin! i saw your tweet this a.m. and have been thinking about it all day....i'm so glad you posted with such honesty. i know that was hard. i really resonated with what you said about "odd red flags." the really great thing is that you're aware of them. i've been thinking today about what mine are: i'm an outgoing, social person....but when i notice that i'm ignoring phone calls or turning down invites to hang for no good reason...that's when i stop to do a mini-inventory ("why do i keep turning down opportunities to hang with great friends?"). i've struggled with depression for years...but when i've taken big steps in talking about it like you have today, i discover more and more people who struggle, too, and who've really wanted to talk with someone about it....and so they tell me, and the community widens. i don't really feel a stigma attached to it anymore because i've discovered how common it is. there's a lot of us out there, which makes me feel more normal :-) ....i just wish it was seen as more "normal" in the church. 

keep noticing your odd red flags, and take care of yourself with the same kind of grace you'd extend to anyone else. you're worth it. xoxo