photo credit subject ziemba essay wrote upcoming seal press anthology divorce women open moving wrote editor candace walsh describes book examine unhappy subject walk aisle escape hatch life promise hold space positive woman book's gender-specific nature suited fine deep long-believed women open things deep healing positive introspective week humble woman who's push book called divorce open moving amazed inspired husband jason's reflections divorce bogged what-ifs whys solid genuine friendship today ex-wife impressive heroes list made amazing life's messiest messes worked moved illinois designer copywriter eventually pretty good friends back married pretty miserable pretty happy fact marriage looked idyllic impossibly wife bands high school process downsizing two-person band called young played drums played guitar harmonized indie-rocked making full-length albums parasol records young disbanded sadly amanda's marriage past weekend received copy joe's just-released solo album love thirty band beaujolais parasol records promo calls garage rock opera conceptual personal monumental agree album tells story anguish anger processing eventual divorce incredibly moving surprisingly non-sentimental horrific experience redeemed songwriting giving rest taste honesty hope hard wrote recently good news today happier feel years growth months viewed situation opportunity improve person wanted yesterday heels digesting joe's lyrics read hopeful blog post neil kramer who's figuring redeem life's messes here's post blog citizen month begins lucky sophia life helps grow teaches confidence nature back distinguishing grabbing life therapy-sized sense modesty insecurity stronger married sweet thing wife amazing thing you're separated wife marriage place neil writing wrote post wedding anniversary response sadness part process pushing side glad neil share rest writing music 