It took me some tome to digest your thoughts here Kristen. You see lying has hurt our family deeply in that a family member took real advantage of us all in a very hurtful way. Fabricating lie, after lie... suffice it to say I really cringe over the damamge a lie can cause. After all the truth can run around naked,  while lies need to be fully clothed.
I do understand about telling children only what they are ready for.