"…put loving God and loving one another above any strict doctrine."

I'd probably rank this as highest, if only because I have a personal aversion to formal doctrine. I think anyone - of any faith - who puts doctrine ahead of the actual person misses the point. It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Gandhi: "I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. They are so unlike your Christ." 

I envy you having this community to belong to - it sounds like a wonderful place.