mixed media ruthieonart life's fascinating mysteries forgiveness reconciliation talking borrowed shirt ruined sort reconciliation important daughters imagine important house talking sort forgiveness rarely emerge pain life read amazing article yorker life fifteen years genocide rwanda reconciliation defies expectations knew million tutsi people massacred days starting april read article reconciliation place today article rwanda safest orderly countries africa rwanda nation hundred thousands people part mass murder live intermingled level society families victims imagine imagine walking street regularly passing murdered brother husband raped sister killed baby impossible made rwanda's decision convene system outdoor community courts gacaca million genocide cases adjudicated year here's article's author philip gourevitch describes court system gacaca designed reward confessions objective render rudimentary justice mete punishment emotional catharsis establishing collective accounting truth crimes place committed system perfect stories corruption people skeptical sincerity confessions pleas forgiveness astounding reconciliation fascinating reaches life sentence post word fascinating describe forgiveness reconciliation realize word feel step back process observer what's fascinating counter-intuitive unnatural process forgiveness hurt wronged part tells walls protect wounds hurt wronged part tells walls protect pride naturally putting walls manage live radical forgiveness reconciliation small fascinating mind-blowing life-changing written fair amount played life aftermath divorce posts check familiar story practice grace girls kinds parents grew singing grace church college basic understanding grace god's grace complete forgiveness acceptance deserve earn make murdering beloved family member john newton captain slave trade ship mid- called amazing grace likened inexplicable miracles lost found blind suddenly regaining sight good stuff hard sounds poetic lovely hard impossible check god's chosen people holy dearly loved clothe compassion kindness humility gentleness patience bear forgive grievances forgive lord forgave virtues love binds perfect unity colossians reaction world reaction waaah small ways people rwanda living side side people devastated lives doubt powerful force world relief utter freedom true reconciliation powerful grasp average everyday people lives live 