Jessica, something life-changing like a divorce can really turn who you are around, can't it? Although I can easily defend myself and my actions/attitudes during my first marriage, I also realize that I'm not a fan of that person I was then. It was a painful process, but I'm so glad I went through it and came out a better person on the other end.

Carla, it sounds like you have quite a story to tell! I can't imagine being taught to never trust yourself, and to second-guess your every instinct. I'm so glad a new world has opened up for you.