Being a child of divorced parents who never figured out how to make it right for me, still sucks some 30 years later. As an adult I have compartmentalized it, and mostly look at it from an 'it's too bad for them' perspective. 

Though my children do not know their Grandmother, based on past behaviour, they never will. If she has changed I would have to witness it long before there were introductions made... 

Yes, divorce can suck, and it seems like those more recently divorced have learned lessons on how to make it less sucky than those that paved the road before them - generally speaking of course :-) 

Posts such as yours, and books like the one you're a part of will help charter a course in the direction of healing and whats best in the end.

You are so compassionate Kristen, I would likely have overheard that same call, and thought 'Shut up you clod, you're making the situation worse' :-)