believer transparency years divorce reaction specific lies told lies lived speak sick tired facades inherent church communities wanted accepted loved overboard newfound love transparency truth telling backfired instances years affirming process claiming feeling good learned soften lay-it-all-out-there approach people life blog brings questions transparency versus privacy draw lines questions blogger writer tells stories life face interesting handle single proper policy adopt writer figure people interactions real people lives people naturally divulge naturally private manage find happy medium blog you're managing relationships dozen people talk regular basis read scores you're writing blog goal accomplishing case stories people work stories people lives panned thought feel stuck variety worlds blend nicely excited sharing experiences feel strongly pretty high tolerance transparency impacts important hurt process telling story realize people private sensitive caution risk sanitizing life rich real tales question motives judgment breath publish surprise countless people building social media networks grappled issues balancing real community online community transparency privacy dealing fallout worlds collide shortage blog posts articles subject yesterday post swanson blog levite chronicles tugging quiet persistent post tells pastor expand ministry social media networks addition interactions physical congregation days chris brogan blogged post social media pastor swanson's post yesterday suddenly pastor feeling exposed transparent prepared feel swanson pastor regularly wrestled called 'living worlds question real world digital world worlds overlapping uncomfortable ways details pastor real reasons feel uncomfortable quote levite chronicles post rings true funny feeling people inside head conversations pretty uncomfortable ministry supposed uncomfortable thought transparency healthy christ-like goals reach people ways work real balancing acts embedded life faith pastor track people real world broader definition neighbors means love 