I'm so glad to read this post!  I read this article over the weekend and have been thinking about it ever since.  What I liked most was reading about how ambivalent folks were about it all, and yet how they managed to live with the situation and with each other.  No one thought the courts were perfect, or even close, and no one really felt like things were "okay" but they were all still able to live together.  I think I focus way too often on making everything okay, and miss the grace that might be present in simply living through a hard situation honestly with dignity and civility.  I think it reminded me that forgiveness (at least human forgiveness) might not have to be perfect in order to be adequate.  

And by the way, Cheryl, I completely agree - thank you for raising the issue.