knew recent post stereotypes offend write knew wanted wanted call fact careful racial stereotyping careless stereotyping people sorority girls republicans started writing tricky writing race controversial topics noticed enjoy writing religion politics divorce throw touchy topic writing race basic issue refer black african-american complicated general understanding black people today prefer black heard cornel west speak topic preference people african-american term shows respect writing blog describe friends baby skin color critical story describe conversation ahbleza describing ahbleza conundrum wrote rewrote felt digging hole wrote circles reminded video made primaries group la-based comics actors called public service administration actors friend mine college video black spoof depicting hillary clinton's campaign people race race attempt avoid mentioning color barack obama's skin trouble funny write race falling pitfalls cautioning process finally extended amount time spent messing word choice draft post jason feedback deep breath published offend lots people annoyed thinking stressful makes avoid touchy subjects blog instincts written post knew wrong thought conversations thoughtful email exchanges people publishing post glad conversations happened understand open good chance engage open post conversations stuck polite superficial plane pretending things race exist safe enlightened wrong blog time time writing race wrong life exposed public tempting back journaling notebook practice craft work thoughts great hope real dialogue possibility conversations happening open reader comments feel worth vulnerability risk step make conversation 