you may be the only person on the face of the earth who doesn't think it strange that when a massive ice storm forced us out of our house in december 2007, the first person to call was my ex husband - and the place we ended up - me, my husband and our three kids - was his place. I hate to call him my "ex" though, as he is, in fact, a dear friend. there has been forgiveness in action for 10 years - though maybe not one apology. when lived out, "sorry" I suppose can become extraneous or irrelevant. your writing is so insightful, so bold. i appreciate it so much.