Your last 4 statements show you already know the answer to your dilemma.  But a reminder,  there is an ebb &amp; flow to all of our human relationships, and this doesn't change on our end of our relationship to God (its comforting to know He at least is consistent).  The goal I think is to make sure our ebbs don't get too shallow.  

By the way Dave's response is brilliant &amp; a whole new way for me to look at this.  It makes the dark times so much more meaningful.