Glad to find you. I've seen your comments on Oktober5, but silly me, I should have clicked your URL. The mother-in-law issue is a tricky one, isn't it? I think partly why it is difficult is because of the hype surrounding it. If you tell someone long enough that you are going to a have problem with a certain realtionship, they will probably go into it expecting to have a problem.

I've been married 17+years and have grown to love my mother-in-law. She loves her son. I love her son. And that created some feelings of territory, I think. But like most relationships, if you give it time and space and come back to it, love can develop.