Sam, that makes me SO glad, too! With just the little bit you've shared about your situation, I can completely imagine myself in it. For most of us, the people-pleaser mode has a mighty strong pull—one that we have to intentionally, consistently resist. But you're absolutely right: "I can’t go back, I can only be who I am and who God wants &amp; calls me to be." And I guess that's part of the whole point: He doesn't create and call us to all be the same, which in my mind indicates there's a lot less "right and wrong" and "black and white" than many people want to think.