oh boy have I ridden the right train for too long, have I tossed and turned many a night with all the 'what-ifs', have I analysed both sides, the pitfalls, and on, and on, and on...oh yes. I did eventually learn to 'agree to disagree' and still have my need to stand up for what I believe be met. Mentally reminding myself of W.I.N. helps me too - Whats Important Now? Disengaging ties nicely in to your previous post about 'standing up', eh?