It is touched on a bunch, but it is amazing what a change in attitude (even if the change is kind of fake) does for one's self.  Isn't that what the love list, or a journal, or heck even just bouncing ideas off of a non-judgmental friend does.  It gets that "stuff" out there so that it can be processed and so that "the good stuff" can be gathered and learned from."

Granted, during times of great difficulty such as your recent one Meredith, getting to that level isn't possible . . . but still, it is good to know that somewhere in one's brain and one's self that the learning place (and peace) will be reached.

Oh, and (say) ten years from now, won't it be cool that when you're reminded of your love list that you'll also be reminded of your grandmother?  Pretty good connection.