Laura, I remember when this realization began to dawn on me. It had a lot to do with the moment I saw how completely different my two girls are. I don't know why I expected otherwise—maybe because they're both girls? But anyway, it was very eye-opening when I began to recognize their differences and see how they would need different things from me.

Meredith, you're probably right (not that I needed another complexity to consider!). Sometimes I ask the girls about life at their dad's house—just simple things like how they get along with each other (as sisters) there, and if they deal with some of the same issues. But I agree, it's OK for them to need and get different things from the different people they love. 

Sam, that's a good question—a house full of boys. Hmmm. I can't even imagine it. In some ways it might be easier because they're not as emotional in general, but in other ways that might mean there's lots more guessing. I kind of prefer the "pouring it all out" style, even if it's emotionally wrenching in the moment.

Trina, I'm so sorry it's a tough parenting time for you, but I'm glad you don't feel alone, and am so glad you opened up here. That helps all of us. You didn't "hijack" the post at all! The post isn't supposed to be about me, after all, it's supposed to be about all of us who experience "the rewarding, magical, if trying world of parenting."

Dave, you have a houseful of hearts and minds needing your care, don't you? Do you have any strategies to share with the rest of us? Or any insights about boys vs girls? I'm glad you pointed out getting priorities lined up—I'm daily trying to find that balance—and I love that your kids support each other, too. That's a sure sign that you are modeling much more than an orderly house.