I know what you mean about "being of the same mind". Not sure whether my second husband is my "soul mate" or not but it certainly is easier this time. I think it was because we both took the time to get to really KNOW each other thoroughly before we made any commitments. Ok I admit it, we met on line. We emailed each other for six months before we actually met and started phoning each other three months before we met. It reminded me of how people actually got to know each other this way before they got married in the "olden days". It sure helped. That's all I know and I think I will start a Love Project as well. I'm a way out extrovert and he is a very private man so a lot of time our Love Lists clash.