photo mikeocampo yesterday afternoon girls home spending days dad's house sidewalk porch flinging arms waist burdened bags backpacks wriggling puppy return girls mini reunions joyful slightly anxious reason girls worry they're hundred times bogged details guess lack details part trust part worry detail learned simply details readily fretting good instant suddenly realize life they've living swallow part heart working throat deep breath focus fact they're excited chatter busy movements perfect smooth softness sharing space they've matters gripped hundred maternal emotions yesterday porch play folded laundry petting maeve telling weekend chicago papa memorial service watched face closely chest filled fear pain anger concern mother bear love thought -year-old included painful experience times knew husband paused yeah died died added worried things money recession felt fault trailed hard basically killed thankful ex-husband mask truth angry girl exposed impossible understand adult consulted head's-up decision memorial service time told truth person died family friend depend factors answer clear navigating childhood blinders parenthood reigns child shielded life teen years eventually found things discussed family topics brought divorce same-sex relationships tragic death difficult explain approach jason taking girls largely choice kids faced difficult things head-on life happened difficult topics realities lives make lives easier complexity adds depth characters broadens understanding compassion gain good trust difficult things divorced kids letting mother they're lessen grip maternal control hard-wired crave part parent you're divorced find facing letting moments kids young accept fighting result misery kids glimpse normal asked questions memorial service told people crying laundry folded stack clean clothes room finish packing week beloved church camp drove two-and-a-half hours camp leave hands grownups deep breath watching picturesque farm fields passed normal illinois humored strange normal normal difficult time letting aspects kids lives concerns fears they're surely normal made choice reside fears wave continue driving 