There is a thin-line, but important distinction, between intentional and contrived. I can be intentional about being in the community, giving myself the opportunity to meet and interact with others. Or I can contrive interaction by saying I am going to go “hereâ€ to try to meet “himâ€ and talk about “thisâ€. 

It seems we often get these two concepts confuse and use them interchangeably.  Instead of living life with intention we try to control and contrive aspects and minute details of life. This is what leads us to exhaustion. We are so pre-occupied with control that we forgo the experiencing the opportunities of life.