Lots of food for thought in this post.  As a United Methodist pastor and a father of Jeremiah (18) and Rebekah (16) this is something I wonder/worry about as well.  I look forward to reading the article and possibly the book.  If anyone out there has read the whole book - let the rest of us know about it.

karen I agree that the ideal would be to talk about this from day 1.  I will not deny the church has some responsibility in this but this is not something that many families discuss openly and honestly.  The times when I have seen church(es) try to do something directly about teaching - the response from people within the church has been less than overwhelming to say the least.      

Sugar is right that shame / guilt can compound the problems.  This is where grace should be more readily offered and received.