photo carbonnyc sitting bench main street morning checking email waiting co-working space open street talking phone began pacing began yelling swearing busied phone navigating twitter furious yelling continued street making cringe apparent talking wife process divorce place threaten spouse's attention gauge reaction initially felt protective woman line partly woman partly hear yelling swearing stuffed phone jeans pocket felt surge compassion strong rushed street offering crumbs hope hard times wondered start telling eventually ex-husband yelling exchanged hatred normal sort thing you'll regret regret actual divorce kind relationship road thing kids anger necessarily preclude good relationship time heal open moments extend kindness forgiveness finally urge find talk friend counselor pastor recommend non-judgmental sort thinks kind person prefers sort hard times loud you're thinking diffuse anger bring perspective rock won't good middle heartache you've vicinity heart aches divorce sucks balancing stories pain hope pain engulf story book divorce story published divorce offers refreshingly positive book subject main message divorce imagined hoped escape hatch life book pushes stigma stereotypes offers hope referenced book posts including love message tiny part worries over-romanticizing divorce women book write frankly struggles pain lives improved post-divorce life feels fairy tale jason happy endings case divorced guess struck morning listened street arguing wife divorce incredibly painful people connected control actions midst divorce positively adjust attitude life divorce guarantee you'll find picture-perfect life side pretty miserable years divorce find pain decade struggle kind struggle dealt daily marriage discouraging downer perspective divorce felt balance times pro-divorce stance healthy dose realism you're struggling hope despair marraige divorce heart aching filled hope 