Endings

by Kristin on April 22, 2011

in Love, family & community

It’s time for Five Minute Friday, and today’s prompt from The Gypsy Mama—”hard love”—is fitting for Good Friday, as is this rain and the desire to say no more than what needs to be said.

No over-thinking. No editing. No mending up the holes. Just a pure out-pouring of memory and image.

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Hard love…

So often, hard love has to do with putting an end to something you aren’t quite ready to say goodbye to, so that you can welcome in something new.

As a parent, I think of so many life transitions that I introduced to my children, as they looked up at me in surprise. “Really?” their wide eyes asked. No more comforting pacifier or bottle? No more being carried every time I long to stop journeying on my own, one foot in front of the other? No more evenings filled with toys and stories—now I have to help with the dishes and finish my homework?

Those moments are filled with so much sadness and loss. Even if we know, in our heads, that it’s time to move on, there’s rarely a moment when we feel ready in our hearts to take the leap. That’s when hard love of some sort has to step in.

I have resisted and dragged my feet at all of the painful endings in my life—a connection to a church, a marriage, a friendship, a job—and yet, they have made way for something more whole and fulfilling. I can’t help but wonder, on this Good Friday, if that isn’t how the disciples felt between the last supper and the road to Emmaus, and if that isn’t the form much of God’s love for us takes in our lives.

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  • http://silly-bear.com Sarah@ From Tolstoy to Tinkerbell

    Endings are hard, bitter morsels of life. Perhaps, bitter things show up in all sorts of religious rituals so that we can truly savor the sweet beginnings of others things. Lovely post as always.

  • http://www.oneordinaryday.com Ashley

    I totally agree! About the hard love as a parent, and the hard love that God shows us. I feel like I’ve come to understand God’s love for me so much more through being a parent and experiencing that need to show a love that is not fun.

  • http://sunshinesentiments.blogspot.com Amy

    Completely true! And how wonderful it is to have a God who loves us enough to shepherd us. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • http://www.rainingsilence.com Rambling Heather

    Endings are indeed hard and often painful. Beautiful words!

  • http://shemarksinred.com Sarah

    “I can’t help but wonder, on this Good Friday, if that isn’t how the disciples felt between the last supper and the road to Emmaus, and if that isn’t the form much of God’s love for us takes in our lives.”
    Great observation–tough, hard love . . . but SO worth it. Thank God for calling us to it!

  • http://divinest-sense.blogspot.com Jen

    So true… Endings are hard, but necessary. And as a chronic change-hater, I know it takes some hard love to push me through an ending and into a new beginning. Live how this all comes back Good Friday, and that necessary hard love that Jesus’ closest friends needed.

    Thanks for the reminder in these lovely words. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Easter weekend! :)

  • http://www.halfwaytonormal.com Kristin T.

    Sarah, I like that you brought up the “bitter” aspect of many religious rituals. Each year my family goes to a Passover Seder meal at the home of good friends, and I am always moved by the experience of chewing on the raw strips of horseradish.

    Ashley, me too! It’s one of the things I value most about being a parent—that perspective. So many small decisions are so complex, not at all as clear as we might think they would be. But in the end, there’s always love—not always easy, but always there.

    Amy, the shepherding image is such a gentle and loving but firm one, isn’t it?

    Rambling Heather, thank you!

    Sarah, you’re right, I think we are called to it as the only way to grow and progress, just as a child is called to take on more of the responsibility and pain of life as she grows. As parents, we’d love to continue to shelter them, but we know that’s not what they always need.

    Jen, the more I think about this the more it fits—Jesus’ friends definitely didn’t want anything to change, at least not in the way it was about to on Good Friday. They certainly weren’t going to be convinced that it needed to happen—he had to *show* them what was going to happen, knowing it would all make sense to them eventually even if it didn’t feel like love in the moment.

  • http://jenniferluitwieler.com Jennifer

    “I can’t help but wonder, on this Good Friday, if that isn’t how the disciples felt between the last supper and the road to Emmaus, and if that isn’t the form much of God’s love for us takes in our lives.” Exactly. Whew. This was so tender and precious. I could see you and your babies dragging your feet through each new stage. And each new stage is the best one. Thank God for that. Blessings this Easter.

  • http://drgtjustwondering.blogspot.com Diana Trautwein

    As always, this is lovely and spot-on. Thanks for your thoughtful, careful words and the good reminder that an ending is almost always an opening to something new and wonderful. Blessed Easter to you and yours!

  • http://www.wimberlys.blogspot.com Cheryl @ finding the beauty

    You are absolutely right. Love means training and rebuking. It wouldn’t be love if we let our kids continue to do things they need to grow out of – can you imagine a 5 yr old taking a paci to K?! :) God says he loves those whom he disciplines. I think you are right on. Thank you for this!